Can We Skip the Holidays?

“In my mind, I want you to be free, for all of my friends, to listen to me, now hear what I say…….. “ cranks loudly over the department store speaker and you know that it is officially the holiday season. But you don’t want to hear the joyous sounds of the Temptations or Mariah Carey reminding you of what you have been dreading.


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In households all across the country this holiday season brings heightened anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts for some. This can be triggered by financial stress, grief, loneliness, strained family relationships, or the cold dark weather winter brings. This is also known as SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder and affects close to 10 million Americans according to Psychology Today. The fact is that this is NOT always the season to be jolly.


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For many of our friends and family, this will be their first holiday season since the loss of a close loved one. Imagine having beautiful holiday traditions with your mom, dad, spouse or child and now they won’t be here to enjoy them with you. And what about those of us who are grieving the absence of living loved ones due to strained relationships, medical restraints, or even prison sentences? These are just a few situations to consider this holiday season when greeting others.


Sending love and light to loved ones and fans impacted by the death of Young Dolph.



Love and light to the loved ones and fans grieving Takeoff




The reality is the holiday season can be downright depressing, but can we actually overcome the "holiday blues"? Let’s look at a few holiday traditions and replace them with tips to help you tackle this holiday season.


Family Dinner- This can actually be very triggering if you have strained relationships or are experiencing grief. Assess your relationships with those who will be present and determine if this will be healthy for you beforehand. Mentally prepare yourself and understand that you are not required to be in any space that does not support your mental health. If those relationships are intact then, get out that bed and go break bread with the fam but don’t be afraid to ask for what you need from your loved ones.


Gift giving- This year challenge yourself to give meaningful gifts and experiences over expensive ones. According to CNBC, close to 30% of shoppers enter the season still in debt from the previous year. This year let’s try something different. Give experiences, give love, give back, and give things that people need. Do not overextend yourself and go into debt this holiday season.


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Eggnog- Who really drinks this anyway? I’m more of a Crown Apple type of girl! Whatever your holiday drink of choice is, it is important not to use this holiday season as an excuse to relapse or go overboard with excessive drinking. Be proactive and have an accountability partner and designated driver already identified.


Decorations- Holiday lights can be beautiful to watch, but for those suffering with SAD or depression, actual light therapy is a great tool. Due to the lack of sunlight during this season, light therapy and vitamin D treatments can help counteract this seasonal depression. Also consider traveling to warmer brighter climates during this season.



Santa Claus- It would be so simple if we could give our wish list to a jolly old man and they magically came true, but you can write a letter to someone you have lost or someone you miss. This is also a great time to write your goals. You can create a vision board, join a support group, and/or seek a professional to help you process these emotions in a healthy way.




Mistletoe- Who doesn’t love a good sensual kiss from bae? Well sometimes we have to kiss ourselves. This year focus on implementing some new self-care techniques just for the holiday season. This is a great time to love on you. You deserve it!


Reiki sessions are extremely therapeutic


It is important to determine how your new holiday norm will look. Be open to create new memories and traditions while still being able to reflect and cherish the happy memories from the past. Take the time you need to cry, grieve, and heal. Don't be afraid to seek a professional, protect your peace, and partridge in a pear tree!


Love & light to Regina King as she approaches her first holiday season since her son, Ian Alexander Jr. died by suicide.


If you or your loved one are currently experiencing suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline call 988 or text 741741. You can also go to the nearest emergency room. This blog is dedicated to all of my friends and loved ones who may be grieving during this season, especially Aunt Sherryl Jennifer, Ziara, Marsena, Shahidah, Natalia, Tricey, India, Catrina, and Melissa.



Written by: Pametria Dominise







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